i heart me project: Narcissism. A Love Story

i heart me project: Narcissism. A Love Story

"How To Spot A Narcissist - Lesson 1" is a pretty cool video!

Christmas alone

For the Christmas holy days I don't really have anyone that it would be my first choice to spend the time together with. I will be spending Christmas alone. Or, more accurately, I will be celebrating Christmas alone.

My approach is going to be to focus very much on myself; that is to say on how I experience things. There's going to be patience in all ways, quiet, time to notice how I feel, and to accomodate what to me seems would be nice to do.

A very nice walk or two in a quiet landscape is a given. This may or may not be done with especially chosen music on earphones (mp3 player or similar). The walk may happen during day, evening or even really late in the evening. I might also make a plan to go to the movies and watch for example one of the Christmas movies, to get at least some of a direct taste of that whole societal part of Christmas. At home, I'll definitely be making the traditional meal for Christmas, most likely have dessert afterwards.

Candles and Christmas music are obviously part of these particular days. And I will as well watch at least a couple of Christmas movies. For me, certain tv or video Christmas entertainment that were the same every year, is definitely part of a traditional celebration. Obviously there's also going to be stuff like ginger bread (may or may not be homemade, baking is however of course a great thing at Christmas), chocolate and various other traditional Christmas candy and confectionaries.

Gifts or Christmas cards I might receive will quite likely be a very nice ingredient to the Christmas days; that's not, of course, the same as spending Christmas in a nice group of people, but it's in truth none the less a hint of that direct communion with others during this cultural and societal festival. But most of all, it's my peace and quiet, time to notice myself and how I feel, that's going to make it a real Christmas. That's the basis.

What are some of the things you'll do in your alone Christmas? I'd be interested in hearing of it in the comments section below! :-)

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WHAT MAKES ACONS HAPPY

Adding a chrsanthemum flower to my green tea.
Taking a morning walk by the ocean.
Buying a yoyo.
The paintings of Marc Chagall.
“My children ,they make me happy ,seeing them play seeing them being kind to each other ,my six year old boy huged his little sister last night ,just a simple hug and I was so happy I could cry .LOL.My eldest daughter sorting her life out and having fun again after a bad relationship ,seeing that they are good ,whole healthy people .I also love the water ,the ocean or a lake ,I feel at peace near the water.Just playing a card came with freinds or family ,no Ns alowed that makes me happy ,and feeding the people I love ,seeing them enjoy the food I cook them .”
Time alone.
Just being alive

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